Counseling Perspective

One thing that should be addressed in this section, is the courage required to seek help in the first place. Several things happen when we do this. First, we are admitting that we are hurting or struggling. It is my opinion that everyone struggles and hurts at various points in life. Second, we are admitting that we can't figure everything out by ourselves. This takes a huge amount of humility as, especially in our culture, we are encouraged from birth to seek out independence and "pull ourselves up by the bootstraps".

This is often where people become confused about what therapy is. Many people believe that going to counseling is similar to going to the doctor. You go into the office, tell the therapist what is wrong, and they tell you how to fix it. Unfortunately that is not usually how it works. Many clients I have worked with would likely say that their experience in therapy, while emotionally draining at times, was well worth the work it took to get to where they ended up. As the saying goes, "It will probably get worse before it gets better." I often tell clients that what happens in session is not nearly as important as what happens between sessions. That is where the real work lies.

It has been my experience from research that I have read, classes that I have taken, and clients that I have seen, that most of how we view ourselves originates in our childhood. That is, going back to the relationships (or lack thereof) with our parents or primary care givers. There are differing opinions in our field on this claim, but from my experience, the overwhelming majority of people I have worked with fall into this category. This is not to say that every problem must (or should) be traced back to childhood, but often we will find the roots of an issue lying somewhere in those formative years.

Through the use of cognitive therapy, systems theory, client-centered therapy, reality therapy, solution-focused therapy, and other types of therapy and techniques, I have seen people make changes in their lives that they never thought they were capable of. I consider it more than a blessing to be a part of those changes and to rejoice with them at the outcomes of their often difficult journeys.

Having specialized in Marriage and Family Therapy, this is where my passion lies. I have had a special place in my heart for marriages for a long time and I thoroughly enjoy seeing couples re-discover their marriage partner again. I also enjoy working with parents as they work to navigate through difficult and trying times with their children or teenagers. Other areas I specialize in are depression, anxiety, relationship problems, divorce recovery, identity struggles, grief/loss, adjustment disorder, forgiveness of self and others, childhood and family of origin problems, abuse- past or present, anger, adoption and foster family issues, and communication. If you are interested in setting up an appointment, or if you have questions about therapy or the therapeutic process, please see the "Contact Me" section and send me an e-mail. I would love to hear from you!